This is like leaving an abusive relationship.
And truth be told, while I have worked with people who have, I’ve never personally been in an abusive relationship, so I apologize to those who have had to endure such trauma as that.
However, when you are physically, mentally or emotionally abused by a partner, your first line of action is to leave.
Get to safety.
Then worry about finding a place and getting your life situated later.
And so you leave.
And then you worry your partner will come back, look for you, try to find you. Not leave or end things peacefully.
Because they can’t accept defeat.
That you left…them.
It’s such a blow to their ego, they can’t handle it.
They’ll do what it takes to destroy you regardless of the outcome.
And that’s where we are in this country.
The majority of us are ready to move on to bigger and better things, but before we make any big decision, we first have to be and feel safe. That’s what this feels like.
Trump has done what he is so good at – create chaos, confusion and division – all to serve his own self-interests, leaving a wake of destruction in his path. Like being in an abusive relationship where you no longer have contact with family or friends and are now completely isolated from the outside; you turn to your abuser to save you from said abuse in their cycle when they may be, well, calm or even apologetic; and you just never know what you’re going to get day to day, let alone minute to minute.
And for those who are angry that Trump lost, they identify with the aggressor. They say ‘but he’s still a good guy.’ ‘He didn’t mean to hurt you.’ ‘He didn’t mean what he said, he was just joking.’ ‘Just give him one more chance.’
He’s had 4 years of ‘one more chance.’ He’s had a chance to prove himself.
And time and time again, a leopard has not changed its spots. Not a big surprise here. Especially for someone who will never get the help he needs because that would mean admitting some sort of flaw or weakness. He must prop up his fragile ego at any and all costs. He needs to. Otherwise, who or what would he be without it? The man behind the curtain…
So our job and duty right now is that first we get to safety. Then we can look at making big changes for the betterment and benefit of all. Dismantle. Disrupt. Shake things up. And most importantly, breathe.
Just 2 more months.
He won’t go without a fight, but knowing that there is power AND support in numbers, we will ultimately be ok.